Friday, 6 November 2009

Fireworks Night



Fireworks night? I never know how to refer to it. Over the years at different times and maybe sometimes in the same day its been Fireworks night, Bonfire night and Guy Fawkes night. Not sure what the official one is nor if there is an official term. For this post though I'll refer to it as fireworks night as it is those that we see and hear most of every year as opposed to Guys on the bonfire.

For us it was a letdown this year but I can't blame those around me this time. We just didn't plan well enough. Last year my wife took the kids to a friend's house where they had a small bonfire, fireworks, marshmallows, etc. My wife actually made the guy and before the bonfire was lit my youngest daughter tried to heave it out and then ran away crying when it was set alight. I can understand as it was pretty lifelike made of the kids' old clothes with a hooded top pulled up obscuring the face. I carried it down and it was child size and I'm sure passing motors must have thought I was carrying a child under my arm. Enough to give anyone nightmares.

This year though there were no invitations and the only thing on locally was at the big park which had live music, a large bonfire, a big firework display and lots more. As this was free and bound to be mobbed with only one way in and out we decided not to go- even my wife didn't want to go. Instead we decided to take the kids out the front with some sparklers beneath the myriad of flying rockets and the like that fill our skies every year. We would have bought our own fireworks be we also did that the year before and the kids lost interest very quickly. Then later we would go for a drive to see the surroundings alight from some great vantage points. It seemed a good plan.

The kids enjoyed their sparklers but that was about it. For the half hour we were out you could have counted the fireworks in both hands that we saw. In fact I've heard more tonight. And as we drove out and about there was virtually nothing near while amid the hazy smoke we could sometimes make out the odd one or two. It was a real shame. If only we had thought it through then we should have bought some fireworks anyway. In the car the kids quickly lost interest in looking for any and played a game between themselves while the boy fell asleep. He's ill at the moment and the oldest is still getting over the illness that kept her off school most of the week which didn't help in the cold. Next year though will be different. If I cannot take them somewhere as I do plan to do then I'll put on a show to make up for this disappointment.

The youngest even managed to burn herself by picking up a sparkler after it was out- something we'd warned her time after time about it. In fact I'm starting to wonder about her. In so many ways she is a bright button except when it comes to common sense. The day before I'd taken all three kid around the block and as usual as we walked by the roadside I had to keep a close eye on the boy. I was then distracted by a scream from my youngest daughter and looked up to see her stumble on to the road at a blind bend. It was a real scare as its not busy but vehicles fly around that corner and would not have seen her. Just lucky on this occasion that nothing came around. Still I do not know what happened. She says the wind blew her. After I got her back on to the road I remembered the boy in time to see him trying to step off the pavement on to the road. I was a bag of nerves after it and as I'm the obsessive type kept running the event over and over again in my mind in worst case scenario.

In all the times she has come out with me that was the first time anything like this had happened. Later I took just her around the block and lectured her about the road and why under no circumstances she must step on it. I then took a photo of a reflection in a puddle. She asked what I was doing and I explained about reflections. To my disbelief at the exact same spot she stepped on to the road to look at her reflection in a puddle just as a lorry was coming around. Before I could think I had yanked her back off the road by the hood which gave her enough of a fright to send her into tears. I couldn't believe she had just done it again. Academically she is I think going to do the best out of my three children but I just have to work on those other aspects.

Next up Christmas. That is a time where things won;t go wrong as my wife and kids go up to Perth for a traditional Christmas with my inlaws after they've opened their presents at home. This year has flown by way too quickly. It cold enough for snow so I hope we can have that in December to set the tone.

6 comments:

ron peponis 07 November 2009 14:30  

Your last two posts have indirectly commented on the breakdown of our community - albeit in a small way. I think community spirit when it has gone will not come back and we will be the worse off for letting it slip away.

Nechtan 07 November 2009 23:29  

Hi Ron,

Yes I can't disagree with that, at least in my own situation. Things now are very different from when I was a kid who knew all his neighbours and had respect for them and the community. Where I am now people graffiti in the street while people walk by and don't care about the mess they make of the area. There is a generation coming through that are just not nice kids and I know of a few parents who couldn't care less.

All the best

Nechtan

ron peponis 08 November 2009 01:45  

Sadly - I put much of this down to how the UK is swallowing the American lifestyle with such vigour. We are suffering the worst recession of the EU countries because we relied so heavily on the financial markets in London just as America did. Our problem is that unlike America we ran our manufacturing sector down years ago in a bid to kill off the unions and we have no way of working and earning our way out of the recession. Our biggest industry now is banking and that will take some time to recover. I'm afraid Gordon Brown will have to pay for his reckless attitude of de-regulation towards the financial sector. Too much doom and gloom.

Achelois 08 November 2009 03:46  

Just popped in via Alice's blog at I'm confused. Loving the layout of your blog mine is untidy with no pictures! I have put yours in my reader and anticipate spending a little while reading. Your pictures are great. On the lack of common sense I have a 19 year old daughter who is blessed with brains and not a dot of common sense, its actually quite endearing although makes her somewhat accident prone! I burnt myself very badly as a child on a sparkler so empathise with said child as I had also been told. We didn't do anything either it was absolutely pouring with rain and I worry for my animals also. Take care.

diver 08 November 2009 07:32  

Had to laugh at the thought of your youngest thinking mum and dad had gone over to the dark side and were now burning children at the stake. Parenting is an imperfect art, is not!

Australia's got more over-regulated over the course of my life. Used to be pretty relaxed, but now private fireworks ist verbotten. Bastids. All must now watch the 'public displays' from 'designated viewing areas'. Next we'll probably be given little aussie flags to wave in appreciation.

Ain't nothing wrong with neurotic over-protective parenting IMO. One of my alltime favourite wisdom quotes is,
"One moment of impatience can ruin a whole lifetime,
One moment of patience can stave off the greatest disaster"

It''s a Chinese proverb about caution and diligence ... and that's what parenting is all about isn't it?

Nechtan 09 November 2009 00:32  

Hi Ron,

Yes it is sad. Having young kids I just wonder what kind of state the world is going to be in by the time they are old enough to realise and it frustrates me all the more that I have allowed my anxiety problems to hold me back in improving their environment.

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Hi Achelois,

Thanks for dropping buy and double thanks for the kind words on the images. The blog layout is a template by a great site- their link is at the very bottom of the page. Some really good templates there.

Yeah I think there is a balance between brains and common sense. A bit of a wash out here too.
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Hi diver,

Oh she is hyper sensitive to all things so I'm glad there was no bonfire this year. She thinks too much and asks too many question for a child of four.

I didn't realise Australia was so regulated. I hope that doesn't stop you having a giant pyre on your own land if you like.

Great proverb. I can definitely see how that fits into my own parenting so I will hang on to that one.
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All the best

Nechtan

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